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Exercise, Kindness and Frosty Frenemies

Hello friends,

Real talk: This post finds me speaking the truth I carry in my heart that hides like hidden treasure.  I had the hardest Christmas gift to give this year…my kindness. Why on earth was it so difficult?!  Allow me to explain,

Exercise, Kindness and Frosty Frenemies

Quite simply because, I had to give my kindness to someone I’m 99.99% positive doesn’t like me {a Frosty Frenemy}.  I know…I know hard to believe right?  As awesome as I am, not everyone on this planet likes me.  

Sometimes, you meet someone who you just don’t seem to get along with. Maybe it’s a colleague, a friend of a friend or its that annoying know-it-all in your book club. Perhaps they’re endlessly needy, laugh at all the wrong things, or engage in behavior which you consider to be phony-bologne… or all of the above.  Surely they are not pure evil, I’m sure they have some good qualities – but still.

Exercise, Kindness and Frosty Frenemies

We can’t like everyone we meet  – and it’s silly to try – but you can always be kind.

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. – Dalai Lama


Exercises come in all shapes and sizes and not all of them are physical.  It got me thinking, maybe this can be looked at as an exercise in both sharing and personal growth?  Yes, this is definitely one of those situations and in the process I’ve learned a lot about myself.


I have learned that being truly kind — in combination with generosity — especially in the midst of challenging, distressing circumstances — can elevate you above the catty drama.  Sincere kindness requires patience, courage and graceful communication. It’s a sneak attack new approach, they will never expect.

Exercise, Kindness and Frosty Frenemies

Mirror, mirror…look at yourself first. I’ve heard {from Oprah} that our subconscious minds continuously seek out human mirrors and hold them up to our conscious awareness. Looking deeply at our own “reflections” expands our awareness of our worst qualities (so we can correct them) and our best (so we can enhance them). Makes sense, and sounds like exercise to me!

Exercise, Kindness and Frosty Frenemies

Next, I like to give my frenemy’s motives a positive, or at least neutral spin. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about, or what a great competitor they are… or how great they are at pointing out details, etc.

Exercise, Kindness and Frosty Frenemies

Upon reflection:  Writing this down felt horribly liberating.  I could almost feel the hormones gushing from my adrenal glands as I typed.  Truly the best gift I could give to myself.

Find your inner Elsa and Clark, “They don’t like me, and they’re saying bad things about me…So what?!”  The only people who are going to believe the bad things said about me… are the ones primed to not like me in the first place.  Then, do your best Clark Gable and say, “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn” and move on. You simply have to let that helium balloon of negativity go.

Kindness is in our power, even when fondness is not. – Samuel Johnson

So there you have it.

Do you have any frosty relationships?

How do you handle your frenemies?



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***Disclaimer: Always check with your doctor first before starting new fitness routines to ensure that they’re right for you.***All opinions expressed are 100% my own.