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responsible 4 U

While I parented…for 18 yrs

Who’s responsible for you? This post is as much about empowerment as it is about change and complaining. I’ve been thinking about change and how I might do things differently. I been creating a long list of overdue projects, shiny goals and slick to-do’s. There is a lot of change on the horizon for me.

Before this month is over, we will move my son into his college dorm. With mixed emotions it occurs to me that there is some freedom on the horizon, as well as shift in my responsibilities.  People keep asking me how I/we will handle having an empty nest, I’m still not quite sure how to respond.


Change is hard, change is scary, but one thing I’ve learned in life is when all is said and done, change is a constant — you can’t stop it so you’d better learn how to embrace it or you are going to be one highly anxious, scary, angry person.  Who wants that?

My top priority, has been parenting.  For 18 years, not much else came first. Often sacrificing wants and/or needs. I have dedicated a significant portion of my life to promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, financial, and intellectual development of our child from infancy to adulthood. At this point the cement has been poured and the foundation has been set. The foundation we have provided over the past 18 years will accompany our child across the miles and throughout the years.  I couldn’t possibly be more proud, nervous, excited, weepy, charged, anxious, happy or worried.

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I could complain about plenty of things.  The cost of tuition, the emotional roller-coaster, adjusting my parenting style, why having a successful independent and excellent human being as a child puts me in this lonely and depressed state of mind, {I miss him and he’s not gone yet}…did I mention the emotional roller-coaster.

Plenty to complain about.

Who among us doesn’t complain? We all do. Did you ever stop to think about why you’re complaining?  Do you realize that when you complain and blame others, you give up your power to change. It’s much easier to complain…that’s why change sucks.

The flip side of change: Is responsibility.

Oh, it’s up there like discipline, responsibility is one of those words you have probably heard so many times from authority figures that you’ve developed your own repellent spray for it.  That’s a thing…right?

I remember being very young, adults would warn me, “stay young as long as you can and don’t ever grow up”. Most children grow up, unless you’re Peter Pan {and he has his own issues and “Syndrome”}. Still, responsibility is one of the most important things you need growing up and to feel good about your life. Without it as a foundation it will damage many vital parts in your life. Stuff like relationships, ambitions and achievements. Kinda important, Peter Pan. Sorry, I never liked that character or story…can you tell?

So today I’d like to share 4 timeless quotes on the topic.

What is one of the most boring and tiresome words ever?” Responsibility. Unknown

“Disciplining yourself to do what you know is right and important, although difficult, is the high road to pride, self-esteem and personal satisfaction.” Brian Tracy

“Freedom is the will to be responsible to ourselves” Friedrich Nietzsche

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” Unknown

It’s easy to complain, and hard to take responsibility. When you complain, you’re playing a victim by choice. You’re saying, “The world is against me, and there’s nothing I can do about it.”  But the truth is…the choice to take responsibility was always yours.

That is what I’m thinking about, what about you?

So how do you handle change?



***Disclaimer: Always check with your doctor first before starting new fitness routines to ensure that they’re right for you.***All opinions expressed are 100% my own.